In her book A Long Bright Future: An Action Plan for a Lifetime of Happiness, Health, and Financial Security, psychologist Laura Carstensen describes the importance of generating realistic, humane visions of our future selves — what we’ll want to be doing and be capable of — and embarking on the tasks and changes and sacrifices that will get us there. It means thoughtful peeks through the periscope of an open mind at the terrain we will someday inhabit. It opts for purpose and intent over dread and denial. The same phenomenon is true for people of any age. Organizations will only progress when middle managers have the space, freedom, and safety to figure out their own way – and leaders learn to let go. The same goes for public talks, such as TED Talks. Hint: that's not the case. ... “I could talk to villagers in the middle of Pakistan the way I could talk to presidents of companies,” she said. Length: 13 min. A little confusion could rattle assumptions about what people are capable of at a given stage of life or what they have in common across age divides, which would be all to the good. Becoming an Old Person in Training makes it easier to think critically about what age means in this society and the forces at work behind depictions of older people as useless and pathetic. 10 sec. Watch these reminders of the benefits that come with age. I know I’m not young, I don’t see myself as old, and I know a lot of people feel the same way. This talk is a great reminder that … Ashton Applewhite blogs at This Chair Rocks, speaks widely and is the voice of Yo, Is This Ageist?. Eva-Maria Geigl: The history of the world according to cats. It’s lazy, though, and utterly unreliable, and arguably impertinent. They’re in the grips of a cruel paradox: They aspire to grow old yet they dread the prospect. To avoid reducing people to labels or medical diagnoses, disability etiquette prescribes “people first” language: instead of “mentally ill,” saying “people with mental illness;” instead of “autistic” or “epileptic,” saying “people who have autism” or “people who have epilepsy;” instead of “wheelchair-bound” or “confined to a wheelchair,” saying “wheelchair users;” and so on. Person first, as retired psychotherapist Bill Krakauer discovered when he started taking acting classes. As an Old Person in Training, I see the 90-year-old me as withered and teetery but also curious and content. Tavi Gevinson's TED Talk (2012). “I don’t mind telling my age, but I know on the job it can cause you a problem, so I always say I’m 104.” Ha! Julianne Holts is a researcher at Brigham Young University, and she addressed this very question in a series of studies of tens of thousands of middle-aged people, and she looked at every aspect of their lifestyle, their diet, their exercise their marital status. The habit of wanting to know a person’s age is hard to break. — Lisa Dyson (TED Talk: A forgotten space age technology could change how we grow food) The Music Lesson: A Spiritual Search for Growth Through Music by Victor Wooten Bass player Wooten is one of the greatest musicians in the world. From now on, I will be identifying as 37.”. It means working against the human tendency to underestimate how much we’ll change in the future. Believe me, I’m a model. What Adults Can Learn From Kids (8:06) One of my 11-year-olds was riveted by this one. Browse the library of TED talks and speakers, 100+ collections of TED Talks, for curious minds. It connects us empathically with our future selves. Obviously, the subject’s age belongs in obituaries and profiles of child prodigies but I believe its reflexive inclusion in other stories is nothing but a bad habit. Ideas free to stream and download. She poses no sexual threat nor challenge. We ask because age functions as a convenient shorthand, a way to contextualize accomplishments and calibrate expectations. My final thought experiment: Think of yourself as an Old Person in Training. The average score for people between 20 and 24 years of age is 99, which also denotes “normal or average intelligence.” For people between 24 and 34 years of age, the average score is slightly lower at 97, which still denotes “normal or average intelligence.” The scores begin to go up again after that age, among older adults. So what does it take to live 200 or beyond as you will see the answer is not what we expect. As Simone de Beauvoir put it: “If we do not know who we are going to be, we cannot know who we are: Let us recognize ourselves in this old man or in that old woman. Ashton Applewhite urges us to dismantle the dread and mobilize against the last socially acceptable prejudice. A lot of people are in the grips of a cruel paradox: They aspire to grow old yet they dread the prospect. They spend a lot of energy sustaining the illusion that the old are somehow not us. “My body’s age is not my age. It’s a life lesson. "Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they're finished." My attitude also sets me apart from an awful lot of other “aging experts” who are invested in the opposite: a deficit model of aging (helping the frail and needy age). Social worker Natalia Granger offers a radical suggestion: Follow the example of gender-nonconforming people. Your brain is getting older, and the connections are weakening. Reprinted with the permission of Celadon Books, a division of Macmillan Publishing, LLC. Shame can damage self-esteem and quality of life as much as externally imposed stereotyping. I am not comfortable with the roles and stereotypes associated with the age of the body I was born into,” he wrote. The disability is a characteristic of the person; it does not define them. The following TED Talks show some of the amazing life experiences and understandings about marijuana, medical marijuana, and hemp, and they take one step closer to a deeper cultural understanding of this amazing plant. https://www.ted.com/playlists/227/talks_to_make_you_feel_good_ab Author Isabel Allende is 71. 5 TED Talks to inspire leaders in 2020 ... says Lyle. We would do both ourselves and the planet a favor, she observes, if we reject those values for more humanitarian and communitarian ones. Discover. Becoming an Old Person in Training bridges the us/them divide and loosens the grip of that exhausting illusion. Rich, complex stories about the past tend to yield vague, prosaic projections of a future in which things stay pretty much the same. I want to be age queer by rejecting not my age but the fixed meanings that people assign to it. TedEd offers animated learning videos … We ask partly out of sheer habit, carried over from childhood, when a month was an eternity and each year marked developmental changes and new freedoms. A woman who attended one of my talks says she answers the question by retorting, “How much do you weigh?” Scientist Silvia Curado refuses to give her age — not because she wants people to take her for younger but because she refuses to be pigeonholed in a way that she finds “reductive and usually faulty.” Her consciousness makes it a political act. “How Do You Define Yourself?” by Lizzie Velasquez. Open Translation Project. Age discrimination is similarly illegal in Canada, Mexico and Finland. Discover. To find the path to long life and health, Dan Buettner and team study the world's "Blue Zones," communities whose elders live with vim and vigor to record-setting age. It just keeps getting better. All rights reserved. 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